For some reason lately it seems that I've been attracting some real bizarre people. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I accepted a request to join a "paranormal social network" sort of like MySpace. You may notice that link is now gone.
I honestly thought it might be a nice way to meet other people interested in the paranormal and share information, stories and research ideas. What I learned is that every nut job on the net had found the site. Out of all the people there I found only a few members of a respected group. The rest were either "ghost tourists" whose idea of a paranormal investigation involved candles, incense, impromptu seances or just taking pictures of dust orbs and uploading them or just jokers spinning wild and fantastic tales for fun.
What's worse though is that these folks seemed to be attracted to me. It's easy just to ignore people when you're just looking around, it becomes harder when they engage you in dialogue.
It began with people wanting to know how to get in touch with TAPS and devolved from there into long diatribes from people with "Doctorates" in Metaphysics who misspelled every third word and couldn't hook a noun and verb together and make it agree under threat of death. Forget punctuation or capitalization, those concepts were utterly foreign. I finally got so tired of one guy's B.S. that I just wrote back: "So, it must have been hard doing that thesis and dissertation when you have such trouble with spelling and grammar."
From the "Doctors" we moved on to the tourist groups. I learned something very interesting though, a lot of people in these groups thinks that all you have to do to become a TAPS Family group is just get a bunch of people together, be fans of Ghost Hunters, and then ask TAPS. So, let me be clear here.
No, that's not how it works. You must be an established group with a body of work from previous investigations that can be reviewed. You must apply to the TAPS Family and have your evidence and reports reviewed. If they decide favorably you must serve a probationary period where you are under intense scrutiny. After that, you still must submit information regularly on investigations and share evidence and research publicly with others.
So, that's not for people who just want to show up at sites, snap pictures and go home. It's also not for those people who prey on the fears and insecurities of others to feel self important.
That's a dangerous practice and I found several groups on that site who seemed to do that. They specialized in "Demon Work" and helping people rid their homes of "demons and evil spirits". From reading their posts and profiles it looked like they went into any home they could and then immediately located the resident "demon" then set about a long process of "ridding" the home of said demon. The more I read the more I realized these were fairly socially isolated individuals with some self esteem issues. This was abundantly evident from the fact that each and every one was a "Doctor" of some kind although none ever listed attending a college.
It was the "founder" of one of these groups who contacted me and informed me that a TAPS Family group had severely damaged his client. I was quite shocked from his report and asked him if he had contacted the TAPS Family on behalf of his client to file a complaint. That's another thing, any client can file a complaint with TAPS Family and it will be investigated. Groups can be disciplined and removed from the organization if they are found not adhering to the standards.
The man responded that he had not done that because he didn't want to "make waves". So I asked him if he was sure it was a TAPS Family group. His response was that they had TAPS on their cars and wore TAPS hats. At that point I knew this had to be a fake case. TAPS Family groups use their own logos with a smaller logo for the TAPS Family (sometimes they don't even use that one). They never use the TAPS logo as their logo.
Now, this is a common occurrence anymore because of the TV Show. People think that if they buy the TAPS merchandise and tell people they're from TAPS they can get into homes or sites. Unfortunately, it's often true that they can. Therefore, it is always wise to check the TAPS Family website for verification of a group's status. Besides, TAPS nor the TAPS Family just drive around knocking on doors!
So, another exchange followed after I told this man that I didn't believe it was a real TAPS group and perhaps he should check the TAPS Family website to see if they were listed. I also mentioned that I hoped he would wish to assist his clients in tracking down these people. He responded that the police had been called and major investigation was under way involving federal authorities and all this stuff. I knew then he was lying through his teeth. So, I asked for the name of the group in question so I could pass his information on to TAPS.
At that point he came clean. He, of course, had made the whole thing up. During our first exchanges he had mentioned that his group had "thought about joining TAPS" but had declined because they were much older than TAPS and helped more people. After he came clean about his lie and told me that his purpose was to "bait" members of the TAPS Family (or as he thinks TAPS) to see how they respond to criticism of their groups. It became abundantly clear that what had happened is they had actually applied and been denied membership. My final note to him simply read: "I'm sorry I am unable to correspond with you further. I do hope you realize that should you post any of your 'stories' to a website after you have admitted their falseness to me you will be committing libel."
So, that left a very sour taste in my mouth because I'd picked up some similar feelings from other things on the site - basically that 90% of what was going on was just exaggeration or outright lies. The straw that broke the camel's back however was a plea for help I received from the owner of the website. There was a member who was having "supposedly" a lot of activity at his home. He asked if I could point him to resources in his area.
The good Samaritan that I am, I contacted the man and offered assistance. I gave him the names, addresses and links of his closest TAPS Family groups. In his first response I got a little suspicious, when he said, "Well, I wanted to contact those guys at TAPS but couldn't figure out how I could just talk to them like chatting or something."
Uh, oh. That's become a big problem with TAPS Family groups. We've even had to redo the letter we send prospective clients because we were getting so many who thought it was a way to get on Ghost Hunters or just meet Jason and Grant.
So, I explained to him that even if he contacts TAPS in Rhode Island that they will have their local affiliates contact him and do the investigation and I'd already given him that information. I further explained that Jason and Grant were usually too busy with the show to do residential hauntings much and that the TAPS teams you don't see on TV handles most of those cases.
Usually, that's enough to stop them. We've had a few requests at SPI now that have fallen away once they realized it wasn't their big chance for a TV spot or to meet celebrities. In this case, however, he seemed to think that by convincing me I could convince them. So, the claims got wilder. First he wasn't scared, now he was terrified. First, things were moving around when no one was home, now they were able to watch them move. First, it was a benign haunting, now it was "evil" and kept saying "Get Out!" and making evil laughing noises. Now, mind you, this was in a period of hours that it went from a regular old report to the Amityville Horror revisited.
So, I suggested again he contact the local groups and let them know it was an emergency. If, however, he felt in danger or wanted to do something about the activity his best bet might me to contact his clergyman and ask for a blessing or exorcism. If he was unsure of whom to contact the local TAPS Family group might be able to assist him in finding a spiritual practitioner.
That should be the end of it right? Nope, now we find that he's had an exorcism but it didn't do anything. This "evil spirit" was too strong for even a priest. On and on and on it went with each paragraph getting wilder and wilder in an effort, I suppose, to convince me to phone up Jason and Grant and have them stop by. Note to world: I do NOT have their phone number. I do NOT have their email addresses. I have never even met them and unless I go to a conference, doubt I ever will!
At this point I decided that in the past week I'd probably spent over 8 hours corresponding with people in a sincere effort to help them out only to find that in every case it was a hoax of some type, therefore, it was time to say goodbye to "
Supernatural Connections". So, I emailed the site owner and explained what had been going on and told him I simply did not have time for those types of games and mendacity. Then I canceled my account with the site.
I love helping people. It's one of the reasons I got into this field - to help people understand those things that simply seem to have no explanation. However, I won't subject myself to an environment that seems to thrive on taking advantage of the good will of others. I have more than enough to keep me busy at SPI!
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